How do I make friends?

There is one question that I have been asked by so many people - How do I make friends? We all need friends, and we all need to know how to make friends, especially when we move to a new place, a new school, a new college, new church, new workplaces, new building... no man is an island. He needs somebody. I don't know why people ask me this question, perhaps its because I can make friends easily, and maybe because I can just talk to almost any kinda person whether they are old, young, highly educated, not so educated.. I realized this pretty late in my life that it was a gift that I could do that, considering the fact that I stammer. So today I thought about it and have jotted down these steps that I think I follow when meeting a new person.

Step1: Greet the person with a smile - Nobody likes a grumpy face. A smiling face always welcomes.

Step2: Introduce yourself - just a casual introduction about yourself.

Step3: Listen carefully - when you introduce yourself the other person would also introduce himself/herself. Listen carefully and pay attention to every single word the person is talking to you.

Step4: Find out his/her passion/interests - Based on the conversation you are having, listen carefully and find out what are the person's passion and interests.

Step5: Ask Questions - Ask questions that the person would love to answer.

Step6: Give an open ear - Always give an open ear. Everyone likes to be with someone who listens to them.

Step7: Follow up - Do bump into the person occasionally and follow Step 3 thru Step 6.

Take care to follow these 7 steps very carefully and you will have surely won a friend.. :)

Just another passing thought...

Just the other day while I was taking shower there was these series of thoughts that flashed across my mind (Nah!!! it's not what you are thinking) and just then it kinda paused on this one thought.

When God made all the creatures of the land and the sea, He made them in pairs - male & female. Then why did he not make Adam with a woman, why did God wait until he realized Adam is lone? Did God not know that Adam would be alone? He created all the other creatures and knew it wouldn't be nice to leave them alone and hence got them into a pair. Why did he create Adam alone?

So this is just my thought, I don't say this is what God probably thought (if He did the same way then I would be God). Well I think, like we all know everything else was made by just commanding over them to be, And they were formed. But with Man it was little different. He said, Gen 1:26 "Let us make man in our image, after our likeness". He probably said that to Jesus and the Holy Spirit who was with him even before the creation. The catch-phrase is he wanted to make us in his own image. And he created us a little lower than Himself.

I guess he wanted to be our sole lover. He wanted to be a passionate lover. He wanted to just gaze at his this beautiful creation. Just watch him when he was walking in the garden of Eden, sleeping peacefully, playing with the animals or eating.. or whatever it be. I guess He wanted to be the only person in the whole world who wanted to express his love for his son. (Now I know what the Bible means when it says, Our God is a Jealous God). But Adam couldn't understand this, cos he wanted someone of his own type. And hence God had to make Eve, a perfect pair for Adam.

So many times in our life, we make all the wrong choices in life and don't care for his love that he wants to shower on us. He really longs to love us and be the sole provider, but we just never seem to understand him...

Lot of things to say...

It's been a really long time I have blogged. There is so much to write, some of them I have forgotten what it was all about. Some I am little hesitant to write on a public space. But this blog is about how life really is worth living so let me share a little thing I learned...

As most of my friends know I am an ardent 'How I Met Your Mother' fan and have watched almost all the episodes of all the 4 Seasons. There are many things I don't agree with but some thing I have learned. One of the things I have learned is how to value my friends... I learned no two persons are the same and will never have the same characteristics and quality. Cause they are unique, every one of them. And there is nothing you can do to change them. But you can still love them cos they are your friends. It wont be long until you realize the only reason you love them is because they are different from you.. they are.. they are special to you in their own way...

There is something I learned from this sitcom also from my own relationship with some of my close friends.. sometimes you might love them so much that you begin to dislike them cos they are not like how you want them to be. Well... don't let them be different. And STOP PRETENDING that you are living... and START LIVING... its totally worth living... :)